Yes, you read it right you need to learn to say NO if you want to live a happy and successful life.
Do you want to know why?
We got used to saying yes and pleasing others since our childhood.
Whoever comes to us and asks for help without any hesitation we start helping others.
Sometimes we want to say no to others but we struggle to say no.
You might have seen, if a person always says YES to others, in other person’s eyes their prestige gradually decreases.
So, if you really want to live a successful and happy life you have to make a habit of saying NO to others.
It is only by saying no that you can concentrate on the things that are really important for you.STEVE JOBS
Why are most people struggling to say NO to others?
We, humans, are social animals and it is our nature to be social and helping others and the word no seems like we are rude or kind of selfish.
Many people struggling to say NO, if someone asks them for any help. They say YES to others and help others despite not wanting.
Maybe you are the kind of person who always says YES to others and also struggling to say NO.
Sometimes I think why it is so difficult to say NO as it is just a word, right?
Think about your past, when you were a child it is so easy to say NO to others, but why it is so difficult now?
As we grew up we have been taught that saying no is impolite, it is rude.
If you had said no to your mom, dad, teacher, and other family member and so on, you were considered as rude.
Even we have taught since childhood that if someone asks for help then without any hesitation help them. Don’t say no.
Now that we all are matured, we are capable to make our own choices. We know what is right and what is wrong. But despite this, we are struggling to say no to others.
Do you want to know why?
We are holding our childhood beliefs that saying no is rude, unkind, and impolite. It is a bad manner. And we worry that if we say no to others, we feel humiliated, guilty, and ashamed.
But you have to understand that saying no does not mean you are a bad person.
Do we like to say YES to others?
How many times did you say yes to things that you really didn’t want to do?
Saying no is very difficult for us when we used to say yes.
Maybe when we say YES if someone asks for help, and when they appreciate us and thanks us we feel very happy and a kind of satisfaction comes to our mind.
But in reality, it is of no use, our life has limited time and if we used to say yes to others and always work for others, what will you get? Nothing!
Is it good to say no to others or can it be harmful?
Maybe it is a kind of harmful for us if we are unable to say no to others.
Since your childhood, you have been taught that it is not good to say no to others and you should help others.
But these all things only seem good to talk and listen only.
In real life, it is of no use.
We forget one thing that there is a limited time in our life. 24 hours a day.
And most of our time already reserved in things like sleeping, eating, bathing, and other daily requirements. Therefore only a few hours left for us.
We have to live our lives in those remaining hours.
If we say YES to others and always do their work, then when will we work for us?
We should invest this time to improve ourselves. We have to enjoy our life in those remaining hours.
If we want to be happy throughout our life, we should work for ourselves.
So make a habit of saying no to others.
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How not saying no can harm your life?
As a human being, you also have a dream, you want to achieve something. You also have a plan.
As everyone has their personal work so there is yours.
When you are going to do something for you, someone comes to you and asks for help. Without saying NO to them, you left your work and go to help others.
Gradually your plan was left behind and a lot of your time used to help others, used to achieve other people’s goals.
When you cannot achieve your goals, you think you are unable to achieve those goals and start doubting yourself. And gradually doubting in your ability.
But this is not true.
You have all the ability and capability to achieve anything you want. And you will only achieve those if you work for it consistently.
By not saying NO to others, and getting temporary happiness, you forget that you also have a goal.
When you realize about your goal, it is too difficult because you have a lack of time and gradually you quit.
That’s why you should make a habit of saying no to others.
If you want to say no then be firm and direct. Simply say them no and say you have some other important work to do. Remember not to take their permission to say no.
Don’t think about what others will think about yourself if you say no to others. Many people feel guilty when they say no to others.
At that time you should think that you also have a goal and have limited time to complete it.
For some time, they feel bad but gradually they know about the importance of your time.
“Live your life for you, not for anyone else. Don’t let the fear of being judged, rejected or disliked stop you from being yourself”Sonya Parker
But what if someone in our family asks for help?
Yes, what would you say if someone of your family or loved ones ask you for help?
Is it good to say no to them?
Excluding some people like, your family member, your close friends, your loved ones, who have importance in your life, learn to say NO to others.
But what many people do is they feel guilty if they say NO to others. They think they are very cruel.
But this is not true.
You have also your life and you have to work for yourself to make your life better and beautiful.
I hope this article will be helpful to you.
So don’t forget to share it with your loved ones.