Have you ever thought about your self-esteem or how to improve self-esteem?
Do you know people become successful in their life because of positive self-esteem? Low self-esteem may affect someone’s life.
So it is essential to improve self-esteem to be successful in life.
If you really want to improve self-esteem then you have to follow these 13 steps.
The truth is that your self-esteem is actually dependent on the environment you live, how people treated you in the past, etc.
If you grew up in a negative environment with negative people then, big chances are that you have negative or low self-esteem.
The best thing is that you can improve and build positive self-esteem.
Below I have described 13 steps, and if you follow those steps it will definitely improve your self-esteem and make you successful in your life.
So, what are you waiting for?
Steps to Build Self-esteem
1. Read Biographies of Successful people.
Successful people don’t let their failures pull them down. They learn from failures and move forward.
They are successful because they turned their weakness into their greatest strength.
From the biographies of successful people, you will learn how they work hard in spite of problems, not in the absence. You will come to know that they grew up facing problems.
When we read their success story it motivates us to do something big in our lives. It helps to build and improve self-esteem.
2. Do something for others who cannot repay you in cash or kind.
When we help others, when we do something for others, when we give something to others without expecting anything in return, it gives a feeling of gratification. And it raises our self-esteem. It builds self-worth.
If you will see any person who needs helps and you can help them, then you should help them voluntarily even no one is watching you. By doing this your self-worth raises a little bit in your own eyes.
3. Learn to Give and Receive Compliments.
Don’t miss any opportunity to give sincere compliments to someone. By complementing a person feels good and their self-esteem goes up.
And when others give you a compliment accept it gracefully and say two words i.e. thank you.
4. Accept Responsibility
We need to accept responsibility for our thoughts, behavior, and actions and keep us away from excuses.
Just think about it, when we refuse to accept responsibility, who are we hurting the most? Obviously ourselves.
So, we need to accept responsibility and stop blaming others.
Don’t be like the student who failed the exam because he didn’t like the teacher or subject.
You have to understand that excuses make the problem bigger than the original problem.
5. Practice Discipline
Simply self-discipline is the ability to make yourself do what you should do, whether you would like it or not.
It is easy to do something that you like but very difficult to do what you don’t like to do.
You may have seen many people living failures even with talent or ability. Do you know why they are unsuccessful? They are unsuccessful because of a lack of self-discipline.
Self-discipline may be painful but gainful in the long run.
So if you want to build positive self-esteem you need to practice discipline.
6. Set goals
It is essential to set goals because if you set a goal, it gives you a direction and feeling of accomplishment when you reach your goal.
It gives us good feelings, and it is all about self-esteem.
We have to take care about our goals when we set a goal. Our goal should be realistic. Because unrealistic goals remain unaccomplished and give low self-esteem where realistic goals are encouraging and build high self-esteem.
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7. Associate with people of high moral character.
If you really want to build positive self-esteem then you have to associate with people who have high moral character.
Negative people lower thier self-esteem.
“A person’s character not only judged by the company they keep but also the company they avoid.”Shiv Khera
Negative friends forced you to do something wrong. True friends never want to see their friends hurt.
Associating with people of high moral character build positive self-esteem.
8. Become Internally Driven.
Do you know what is internally driven?
Suppose a person abused you and called ugly names and insult you. In this situation what most people do? Definitely, they give him a befitting reply. Right!
But if you are internally driven, you refuse to accept their words.
Without your permission, no one can make you feel inferior.
Eleanor Roosevelt says, “No one can make you feel inferior without your permission.”
If you refused to take their offerings, it belongs to those who offered it. If someone offers you insult and if you refuse to accept those offerings then that insult belongs to the person who offered it.
Not let the outside environment to feel you inferior.
You have to ask some questions to yourself like
Why did I get upset?
Why am I angry?
Why I am depressed?
Never let the outside environment to take over your feelings. You are the king of your heart. You are the king of your own life.
9. Develop a mindset that brings happiness.
Most people are so materialistic. They always run behind the materialistic things and think they will be happy if they get these things.
But after getting things are they happy?
It gives happiness for some time but then you will think about another thing.
You might think about you will be happy if you completed your graduation. Right! But after completing your graduation are you happy?
No, you might think you would be happy if you get a job. Right! But after getting a job are you happy with your life? Definitely NO!
These things can give you temporary happiness.
If you ask people about what makes them happy, you will get various answers. Most of their answer includes materialistic things.
But you have to understand that happiness comes from being not having.
You might have seen many people, who have everything but they are not happy? They have money, luxurious house, luxurious cars, they are living a luxurious life but they are still not happy.
Happiness is internal, not external. Materialistic things can make you feel happy for a moment but they are temporary.
Happiness is like a butterfly when you run after it, it keeps flying away. But if you stand still, it comes to you and sits on your shoulder.
Always looks for positive in every person and every situation. Learn to find pleasure in every little thing.
Always remember everything is not permanent. Ups and downs are part of life.
10. Give yourself positive auto-suggestions.
Develop a habit of giving autosuggestion to yourself. Autosuggestion has the power to alter your belief system as it influences your subconscious mind.
If you give yourself positive autosuggestions you build positive self-esteem and become successful in your life and the reverse is also true.
Autosuggestions are positive statements about the things you want to achieve in your life and the kind of person you want to become.
Autosuggestion reflects your belief system.
Instead of telling yourself, I can’t do it, make a habit of how can I do it.
Instead of telling yourself negative things, tell positive things to yourself.
11. Turn your weakness into strength.
If you read about all successful people, if you go to history, most people were successful because they turn their weakness into a strength.
But in reality most people, instead of turning their weakness into strength, they always thinking about their weakness.
If you do like this your strength also becomes your weakness.
You have to understand that you have the ability to turn your weakness into your greatest strength.
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12. Have patience.
You might have seen many people having all the talents but still, they are living a life of failures.
Do you know the reason behind it?
They are unsuccessful in their life because they don’t have patience. They want quick results.
But you have to understand that success takes time.
Most people start with great enthusiasm, work hard for some time but when they don’t get quick results or faced some problems they get disheartened and decide to quit.
Sometimes people quit when they are about to succeed. They give up at the last moment.
In China, there is a bamboo tree. This bamboo tree even after four years of watered and all types of fertilizing not show any sign of growth. But after 4 years, the bamboo tree grows about 90 fit within 6 weeks.
There is a question. Is the bamboo tree grows in 6 weeks and the previous 4 years are wasted. No!
If the bamboo tree had not received 4 years of water and fertilizer even does not show any visible sign of growth, the tree would have died.
It takes time to grow.
Even though the result is not visible something is happening inside.
But most people don’t understand this.
So have patience and keep doing. You will be successful one day.
13. Make a list of all your strength and weakness
All successful people realize their limitations or weakness but focus on their strengths also.
But most people always focus on their weaknesses instead of strengths and that is the reason behind their failures.
So make a list of your strength and weakness.
Always focus on your strengths and never forget to work on improving your weakness.
The above 13 points are helps you to build a positive self-esteem in your life.
If you really want to become successful, if you really want to improve self-esteem then from today onwards follow these 14 steps.
You will definitely become successful one day if are successfully apply these 14 things in your life.
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